I LOVE TO BE IN LOVE AND BEING LOVED BUT...???

It was a free evening and me and my friend were busy in entertaining each other. Suddenly my friend asked me do u love someone? I had no option than to agree but my reply was , ' yes i love to be in love and being loved.' . I then asked him what do u mean by love,he said 'i don't know bcoz i have never been blessed with love,was always alone'. Here i remind u that he always keeps telling me about the care,love and affection of his parents particularly his mother towards him,so i failed to understand why he was never loved and was always alone. Anyways he continued what is love? I did know he wanted to listen about the boy and girl relationship.   

                                   Well i personally feel when we love someone we care for him/her,we respect him/her,we wish to see and keep them happy,we miss them whenever we are happy or in trouble,we wish them with us when we need help,we never expect anything from them in return to our love and care for them. I said to my friend i feel the love,the real and unconditional love when i leave my home in Kashmir to come here in Hyderabad and my mother hugs me,kisses my forehead and her eyes turn wet,i feel the love when i am ill and my father comes to me,puts his hand on my head and tells me to have that cup on tea that is in his hand,i feel the real love when my father calls me hundred times till i reach Hyderabad,i see the love in the conversation that i daily have with my 5 year old nephew and when he asks me,"uncle when will u come back home,u always tell but u never come". I realize the real love when someone says bad about me and my sister instantly scrolls him/her(even if she is angry with me). I know it that it is the love when someone cries when i tell him/her that i  have no relation with him/her.Love is a pious term and the company of our beloved makes our time beautiful,makes us relaxed and we forget all our worries etc in the presence of beloved one.

                                     I know to be in love or better to say to be in a relationship with a boy/girl is no bad, But can anyone tell me what has been the definition of love turned into in modern days. I don't see anything in modern love else then the thirst of physical closeness. I have discussed about this issue with more then two,three hundred people (who have been in relation with girl/boy) and honestly most of them one or the other way treated the love merely a physical relationship and a tool of entertainment and mostly had it because others had it too. I know there are cases that we must not include in it but see the majority. Seriously and honestly i love to be loved and being in love but where is that unconditional care,respect,sense of responsibility for each other that makes the love,that love which makes the life beautiful,makes us strong enough to face any difficulty and gives us courage to overcome any tough time anywhere and anytime. Where is the sense of giving more to whom we love and expecting less in return,where does the understanding go when just a simple thing starts cursing our so called true love(i feel understanding,trust and care are the only thing to make any relationship long lasting and strong).. All of us know and agree that mothers love is the most pious one,does she leave us when there is some misunderstanding or any other thing like this.....??????????